Heidi Vincent (Singer, Songwriter, Harmonies, Acoustic Rhythm Guitars) wrote this song for people like her who struggle with ADHD and for the world. Her hope is to inspire connection, compassion & cognizance of what life with ADHD is like. “I want to tell you we are ok and we’re not alone.”
Heidi’s “Dear ADHD” pop-country anthem smashes the stigma of “life-ing” with ADHD. “The amazing thing about art, music, expression is that it connects our hearts, this song is from my heart to yours!”
Message from me to you….♥️
I was diagnosed with ADHD very late in life. And when I was finally diagnosed, I literally felt so much grief and rage. I understood in that moment that the years of negativity delivered to me by so many people & institutions were not true. Everything I believed about myself & who I was from these extraordinarily negative messages, from those I trusted implicitly, were not my fault. I lived much of my life feeling like I didn’t belong & wasn’t valuable. ADHD wasn’t understood while I was growing up, not by society, not by my family.
I struggled so much with school, I finished 4 years of university (general credits, as my focus kept changing), but it came at great mental cost to me.
📚This is the girl whose Elementary, Highschool & University teachers wrote on her report cards:
“Listening skills are weak & attentiveness in class is very poor, a change is desired here” 🧐”A lot of improvement is necessary, immediately Heidi – Get to work in term 2″ “Not all assignments have been submitted for marking nor has an acceptable reason been given for non-submission” 🤯”Lacks concentration, easily distracted” “At present, Heidi has 14/36 on work completed although she is capable, she is not working” 🤐”Be more attentive, develop self discipline” “Make more effort” “Heidi has trouble settling down to get to work, she is capable of better behaviour” 👩🏻💻”Heidi is capable but hasn’t completed her work, she could be a good student” “More concentration needed” 😵💫”Heidi has the ability to do well if she would just concentrate” “Student demonstrates little or no effort in class”
All my school reports contained so much negativity. My mental health was being severely and systematically damaged. The Child Behaviour Clinic has reported findings in 2023 from researchers, by the age of 10, kids with ADHD receive 20,000 more negative messages and critiques than their peers without ADHD, 20,000 more negative comments. Over the course of 10 years, that’s more than 5 negative comments PER DAY MORE than their peers.
The American Psychological Association has found: “in the 10 years leading up to the pandemic, feelings of persistent sadness and hopelessness – as well as suicidal thoughts and behaviours have increased by about 40% among young people.” “We’re seeing really high rates of suicide and depression, and this has been going on for a while.”
All my life, I felt “wrong.” I felt like as though I was watching the world from the outside of a window pane. I had a direct view but no access to the great life I saw inside. All the people “in there” seemed to breeze through their “to do’s”, the tasks, the social expectations, the short term memory, the focus, the time management, the prioritizing, the confidence; the life in general.
“I wrote this song for the world, I want to tell you we are all fiercely created and you’re not alone, I understand, I resonate with you.” I wrote it for everyone who struggles “life-ing” with ADHD.
I feel that “Dear ADHD”s pop-country anthem smashes the stigma of “life-ing” with ADHD. The amazing thing about art, music, expression is that it connects our hearts, this song is from my heart to yours!
And now, with Knowledge & Experience as my weapon, I have been raising my daughter, who is diagnosed like me, with some skill, love & compassion.
SO BE educated, create a loving environment for yourself & find your tribe. 🌸💗🌸
You could be the glimmer of light to someone else.
Love Heidi
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